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Before She Says "I Do"
by Dale Reeves

Last June on Father’s Day, I stood at the brink of performing the marriage of our daughter. As the father of two daughters, I was so excited about welcoming another dude into our family. (Shout out to you, Adam!) At that moment I asked myself if I had done everything I needed to do to equip my daughter to be the best she could be as she began a new family.

Looking back at all my years as “Dad” living in a house of estrogen, trying my best to be the best possible father a girl could have, I can’t help but notice three key traits necessary for our little princesses to thrive in the grown-up world.

As my girls were growing up I coached their softball teams. Not only did I want to see them develop self-discipline, learn to win confidently, and lose graciously, I also knew they would need to develop some toughness to survive all this world has to throw at them.

JONATHAN'S BLOG: Recruiting Your Volunteer Dream Team
Have you ever sat in church on a Sunday morning, looked around the room and coveted volunteers?

Okay, maybe it’s just me. I’ll notice a young couple I know sitting across the isle who are fun, relevant and on fire for God. All I can think of is…

“They’d be perfect youth ministry volunteers!
Middle schoolers would love these two!!!”

And then what do we usually do? We shake our head and say, “I wish they would sign up to help.”

And that is where we usually fail.

We forget the simplest, basic, most effective recruiting tool around…


I know, right? But let’s be honest. That’s where most of us fail. When it comes to recruiting an effective team of volunteers, most of our efforts are:

  • Making announcements (“Hey, anyone interested in working with kids please sign up at the back table.”)

  • Creating a creative video (Again, with the pitch at the end, “and if you’re interested, contact the youth pastor.”

  • A booth at the ministry fair.

img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-9056" src="" alt="The-Skinny-Volunteers-WEB" width="185" height="300" />I just finished writing a skinny little book for GROUP Publishing on that very subject, part of the brand new set from 6 authors (also Greg Stier, Mark Oestriecher, and more…) about 6 vital youth ministry topics. The book is potent with tools and tips for recruiting, retaining and training today’s volunteers. And out of all the habits and pragmatic tools we can practice in our ministry… the most effective practice is the simple art of “ASKING.”

Sounds simple, right? Sadly, most of us rarely do it. They think about it, put it on the back burner, put it on the list of "should do's"... but they rarely allocate time to actually asking people to serve in ministry.

I teach this simple concept to Christian leaders across the country and I always hear the same feedback. "You're right. I know I should ask, but I don't."

Think about it. When is the last time you just pulled out a blank piece of paper, brainstormed, and wrote down the name of every person you’d love serving with you? When is the last time you just sat down and prayed about your dream team?

Most of us don’t do it.

It stops at the coveting stage.

Don’t make this mistake. Take the next step. ASK.img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-9057" src="" alt="The Skinny Box Set WHITE" width="213" height="300" />

Jonathan’s new book, The Skinny on Volunteers is part of the brand new set arriving this month from GROUP called The Skinny. 6 authors, 6 books, 6 vital youth ministry subjects. Reserve your set now and get 20% off.
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Which Are Teens' Favorites...
and Why?

David R. Smith

Some teens like to keep up with their friends on Facebook. Some like to shoot short clips for Vine. Others keep it short and simple on Twitter. And many like the idea of the (supposedly) short life cycle offered by Snapchat. But which is the best?

It might depend on who you ask...
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